marry me

While trying to secure a job teaching at the college level, I am currently working for a high-end cosmetics company. One of the most popular skincare brands we carry is Philosophy. I decided to buy a Philosophy gift set for my mother called "The Bride" which contains several of their most popular products. Since my mother is going through a divorce, I thought it wasn't the best idea to give her the original box the products came in (since it's peppered with words like, "marry me" and "the bride") so I transferred the products into a neat little gift bag for her and kept the original box for myself to store random things in. Inside the box was this nifty little "marriage certificate" which I never read until a few weeks ago. It isn't meant to be given to another person-- it's a marriage certificate for yourself. Basically, it says, "Marry yourself before you marry another." In other words, commit to loving yourself before passing that love onto someone else.

I decided to tape the marriage certificate above the vanity where I get ready every morning to remind me to nurture and love myself. It may seem silly, but it's something I need to constantly remind myself. I have no problem nurturing and taking care of others, but I'm the worst person in the world when it comes to respecting my own body and its needs. I'm going to post the words to the certificate below as well as a couple of pictures. Here's what it says:

marry me

Dear God, I stand before thee as I join in marriage with the most important person in my life, me. I ask for your blessings so I may be totally conscious of my special needs always. I ask this so that I may be strong enough to love myself as I love others. I vow that from this day forward, I will care for myself by getting the proper rest. I will consume foods that nourish my body and soul. I will internally cleanse my body with a large daily intake of pure drinking water. I will exercise, not to burn calories, but to rid my body of toxins. I promise to take care of my skin, the largest organ of my body. I will nurture my soul with little gifts of pampering. I will celebrate my spirit with creative activities I love. I will romance my heart, by allowing intimacy into every moment of my life, but mostly, I vow to put my arms around me every day and to recite the words, “I will never leave me no matter what".

I don't really agree with the first line (I don't think I am the most important person in my life and I never will). But I do think most of what is said in this little certificate is valuable, especially for those of us learning to love and respect ourselves.

We're only given one life, one body, one shot.

We have to take care of ourselves. If we don't, who will?

We have to respect ourselves. If we don't, who will?

We have to commit to ourselves, to be honest with ourselves, to do good by ourselves. If we don't, who will?

We have to love ourselves.

If we don't, who will?